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Meet Victoria


victoria_dominiqueVictoria D. Schmidt is a woman who lives, loves, and has worked an admirable life through nine decades and well into her 10th. Her wit and style are timeless, as are her energy and curiosity. She has a thirst for knowledge that keeps her current despite her years. She has had it all without ever considering the alternative … love, family, work and friends. She dreams big and has a willing spirit to share the successes and failures that make her such an inspiration.

Victoria climbed the ladder of success by way of being a fashion editor at Woman’s Day magazine in New York City; to serving as the Director of Tourism for the State of New Jersey under Governor Tom Kean; to founding an ESL business in Poland, the land of her heritage; to running her own successful advertising and public relations firm in Bernardsville, New Jersey. Early in her career, she took to the pen with Triumph in Exile, a book celebrating a woman who had a strong voice and made a difference; a topic that would stay with Victoria.

After many years in a happy, loving marriage author, Victoria D. Schmidt, lost her husband, Ralph, to Parkinson’s disease. She discovered several havens including scores of publications that helped her with her grief and gave her a sense of peace. However, Victoria felt there was a need for a book, a single volume that would offer women a wide range of resources … people, places, websites, organizations and more … to find solace and gratifying, new life options. She undertook the task herself. The result is Finding Solitary Contentment. As she worked on the manuscript for this book, she was then inspired to honor her husband with Remembering the Loved One You Lost, a gift book with her poetic reflections of lost love and acceptance, illustrated with stunning photos of the noble lotus.

Ms. Schmidt lives in Oldwick, New Jersey with Dominique, her gentle whippet, and already has plans for her next book. Being an avid Francophile, she hopes to build the “Pavillon Francais” of her dreams in the near future.






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The Author

Victoria D. Schmidt 

Victoria D. Schmidt is an author who understood the concepts of “lean in” long before it became part of our everyday lexicon. Throughout her life she has pursued personal, business and spiritual goals with determination and disregard of any ceiling someone else may have imagined over her head, glass or otherwise. She flourished in the light of an adoring husband and raised a loving daughter while achieving prominence and acclaim in her career. She prides herself on living every day to the fullest with happiness and joie de vivre.

Living A Full Life 

In her latest two books, Victoria, reflects on the challenges of living a full life with intelligence, practicality and compassion. In Move On, her lighthearted style delivers a sensible structure for women rebuilding a broken life due to the loss of a significant partner, be it from death, divorce or things just going wrong. Remembering the Loved One You Lost is a celebration of the joys and sorrows of finding yourself alone. Through sensitive poetry and stunning visuals, she takes you through the grieving process.



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Victoria’s Secret #21 | Maintain control of your balance to assure a long, healthy life

Maintain control of your balance to assure a long, healthy life. The sooner you become aware of your balance … good or not so good … the sooner you can begin to strengthen your body, gain a sense of independence and improve your quality of life. Too often adults who are experiencing a loss of […]

Victoria’s Secret #20 | It’s Not Too Late To Start Your New Year’s Resolutions

My Right Things Secrets are the basic, obvious and critical practices that are covered in some detail in Secrets #s 2, 4, 8, and 11. (If you wish to reference them and have not saved them, they are in my website Briefly, here, they are: First. your health, you should have a complete physical […]

Victoria’s Secret #19 – Relax … Take a Break for the Holidays

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah! Best Wishes for Whichever Your Holiday!  I reveal Secret #19 early to prepare you for the holidays on: How To Live a Happy, Healthy and Sexy Life! Happy, Healthy, and Sexy!    Always Keep This Mantra In Mind: You must want to live a long life  and view living with grace and acceptance. […]

Victoria’s Secret #16 | Handling Stress Part II | Relaxation Postures – 1

Always Keep This Mantra In Mind: You must want to live a long life and view living with grace and acceptance. My Long Life Secret For Today Practicing relaxation postures is another element of your stress management plan. Here, a bit of wisdom … Relaxation postures … are designed to keep you in touch with […]

Victoria’s Secret #15 | Handling Stress Abdominal Breathing C Exercises – 2

My Long Life Secret For Today Enjoy the benefits of abdominal breathing exercises. Here, a bit of wisdom … Abdominal breathing techniques…     will calm your mind and body and help eliminate stress.  Once you have practiced the exercises in Secret #14* several times and conquered the basic principles you may add a bit of levity,  You […]

Victoria’s Secret #14 | Handling Stress Abdominal Breathing C Exercises – 1

My Long Life Secret For Today Abdominal breathing exercises are essential for eliminating stress. Here, a bit of wisdom Yoga is a ”breathing exercise”  … in which all physical movements begin with the breath — inhaling and exhaling. Learning the procedures can be challenging at first but with patience and practice your movements can become fluid […]

Victoria’s Secret #12 | Handling Stress Abdominal Breathing – B

Learning what type of breather you are…   before you begin a regimen for abdominal breathing will help put you on the path to eliminating stress. (A reminder: abdominal breathing is the proper way to inhale enough oxygen into your blood to support your physiological needs and empower your organs, muscles and limbs.) Try this simple test […]

Victoria’s Secret #11 | Sleep

A good night’s sleep …   can reduce stress, boost your energy, your mood and your concentration … thus making you  more productive at your daily tasks ahead.  If you are having trouble sleeping, particularly in the summer you are not alone. According to a survey by Prevention magazine half of Americans indicate they are so active in the […]

Victoria’s Secret #10 | Symptoms of Stress

The symptoms of stress … manifest themselves in several ways and there are few of us … if any  … who don’t have them. The dictionary definition of stress is “the state of extreme difficulty, pressure and strain.”  The elements of the condition include:   Physical effects: feelings of tenseness and nervousness, stomach pains and related […]

Victoria’s Secret #9 | Handling Stress Abdominal Breathing – A

A stress management plan … which includes three parts:  abdominal breathing, relaxation postures and meditation … will help you relax and refresh your spirit, body and mind.  It is wise, if you are not already there, that you begin with practicing abdominal breathing which is one procedure of conscious breathing.   John Keats, 1795 – 1821, the […]

Courier News | Sharing Wisdom of a Life Well Lived

nonagenarian offers blessing on love, loss. – by Susan Bloom Schmidt began writing “Finding Solitary Contentment” as a way to help others through the difficult process of losing a spouse, reclaiming their life, and returning to a state of happiness BERNARDSVILLE – In the first eight decades of her colorful life, Bernardsville resident Victoria Dabrowski […]

Star Ledger | Sharing Ageless Wisdom With Timeless Grace

Mark Di Ionno | The Star-Ledger About Me: Star-Ledger columnist. Pulitzer finalist, news commentary 2013. Four-time winner of New Jersey Press Association Award for column writing. Author of four award-winning books. Father of six children. Reach me at           |Read Original Article Here | Victoria Schmidt takes a balance class two times a week. She […]

The Victoria Dabrowski Schmidt Career Conference

My day-long namesake, the annual conference at my alma mater, Douglass Residential College, Rutgers University, on Saturday, February 22, 2014 was exciting and gratifying … and, truly rewarding for having the event named in my honor. Karen Alexander, Assistant Dean, Rutgers Department of Women’s and Gender Studies, performed a yeoman’s task of planning coordinating the […]

How to Share the Spirit of the Holidays When You Have Lost Someone Dear

It was gratifying to learn that Womego, a women’s blog had published my recent article, How to Share the Spirit of the Holidays When You Have Lost Someone Dear. Coming to terms with losing someone you love, particularly during the holidays, is different for everyone and takes longer for some than others. Knowing that it […]

Victoria and Douglass College Alumnae Tour Scotland

I treasure my years at Douglass, especially for meeting my husband, Ralph, there, at Freshman reception. The incredible women with whom I attended college continue to be my friends, cheerleaders, and support. Valerie Anderson, Executive Director of the Associate Alumnae of Douglass College, center front row, hosted the farewell dinner for “Traveling Douglass Alumnae” at […]

A Technological Connection

It was exciting to learn that the recent launch of my website helped a long lost friend find me and my books. Good morning Vicki: Dad passed away yesterday of a heart attack, he was 98 and lived his final few years in an assisted living home in Fountain Valley, California. I found myself thinking […]

Clinton Book Shop

A note of thanks to Rob Doughtery, for inviting me to do a book signing in his shop. Rob Dougherty, manager of the Clinton Book Shop in Clinton, New Jersey and I discuss my two books, Finding Solitary Contentment and Remembering the Loved One You Lost before I made my presentation and signed books at […]

Finding Solitary Contentment Review from AICHP Health Care Blog

Training Program in Bereavement Counseling: New Book: Finding Solitary Contentment Grief Counseling:  “Finding Solitary Contentment: Ways to Handle Grief & Embrace a New Life” We are pleased to announce a new publication by author Victoria D. Schmidt. Her new book, “Finding Solitary Contentment” is a well written contribution to the field of bereavement and grief […]

A New Chapter Begins

My first major book signing for “Finding Solitary Contentment” and “Remembering the Loved One You Lost” was an exciting and rewarding experience. The well attended event was held with afternoon tea at Gourmet Expressions, a charming country restaurant in the seventeenth century former post office building in rural Mountainville in Tewksbury Township, New Jersey. Guests […]

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